I had originally written this guy the following email politely cutting him loose. I didn't feel a connection and frankly didn't want to spend my precious time with someone that I'm just not that into:
On May 10, 2006, at 10:26 AM, Marissa wrote:
Hey Tom, Thanks for your email - I appreciate your honesty as well. Although I have enjoyed our time spent together, I don't feel the kind of romantic feelings that I should be feeling at this point. You're a neat guy, and have renewed my enthusiasm for my faith - thank you for everything!
Have a wonderful day,
And, he responded:
Sent: Thursday, May 11, 2006 6:56:16 AM
Goddamnit woman, will you give me a fucking chance...what in the hell do i have to do to get it through your head that I fucking like you. Arggghhhhh!
I hate this, I think the world of you b/c brutally honest and your cute.
I am trying not to give in to fear, why can't you do the same for me? You talk of chemistry, I see and feel this deep reservoir built on opportunity for mutual sharing and by letting things move at the pace we're both ready for.
Fuck an A, shit fuck.... why are you shutting me out?
talk to me!!! But if its really what you want, kick me to the curb.
By the way, isn't "fuckin' A" spelled "fuckin' A" not Fuck An A? And PLEASE won't someone use the proper spelling of your and you're??
This from a guy studying to be a priest.
I have not responded yet...any ideas? I'm thinking of either not responding or saying something to the effect of, "anyone who starts an email with "goddamnit woman" and uses such language to address me has no place in my life."
But something way sassier should be said. I'm likely not responding, but I'll take any and all ideas.
I really do need to write a book.
And, while I was writing this post, I got a call and then an email from the other guy that I wrote a "thanks but no thanks" email to:
you know what? that's a pretty shitty thing to do to someone! you can at least pick up the phone and talk to me and tell this to me instead of having me read it in a 'dear john' - i was actually going to tell you today that this isn't going to work out. you say all the right things, yet when it comes down to it, you don't know what you want, and stringing me along was not fair. if you didn't and weren't interested in me, why the coffee? why all the bs? pretty lame and childish if you want my opinion. who knows where things could have gone with us, and it's a shame we will never find out. i hope you are more reasonable and fair with the next guy that comes along.
WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE MEN OUT THERE!!